Learn how to successfully meet singles on Tinder in New Zealand: The ultimate guide for newcomers and experienced users!


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Dating via smartphone? In recent years, Tinder has become a synonym for online dating via smartphones in New Zealand. The majority of women and men have probably tried Tinder during their single years. And they have learnt to love and hate the app at the same time.
Currently the biggest and most popular dating app worldwide!
says Ben

Are you interested in Tinder, but have never tried the app and you are wondering whether it's worth registering? Or are you already on Tinder, but your success rate (i.e. dates and matches) is still very limited?

Don't worry, you can expect lots of tips and tricks along the way! Because success on Tinder has very little to do with luck.

If any of these points apply to you, this article is exactly what you need. You will learn the following in the individual chapters:

  1. What Tinder is all about
  2. How Tinder works
  3. The individual pros and cons of the Tinder swipe system
  4. The subscription models and their benefits
  5. How you can be (more) successful on Tinder

Sound interesting? - Then let's get started!


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Tinder Pros

  • Many active users in New Zealand

  • Free to use

  • Profile can be set up quick and easy

  • Can be used internationally when traveling

Tinder Cons

  • Many users want to remain uncommitted

  • Many relationships are superficial

  • Profiles are not as revealing as on other dating apps and websites

The giant among lifestyle apps - What is Tinder all about?

Hardly any online dating website has attracted as much attention as Tinder has. It appears in songs, cabaret artists make fun of it and in app reviews Tinder receives a lot of criticism.

On the other hand, if you check the ranking of the world's most successful apps in the "lifestyle" category, you will find that Tinder is at the top.  With a proud turnover of more than 1 billion US dollars.

Why is this statistic so important?

Because the benefits of a dating app almost always scale with the number of members.

So what does that mean?

Quite simple ...

The more people who use online dating apps, the higher the chance you'll find your perfect dating partner there. (Or even several.) 😊


The statistics not only show that Tinder is used by quite a lot of people (worldwide, but also in New Zealand). Moreover, members are even willing to pay for certain features.

Is the use of dating apps really recommendable?

The clear answer to this is: it depends.

If you meet new people constantly in your life, you probably won't need a dating app like Tinder.

However, many singles find few opportunities to meet new people in their everyday lives. The work environment offers opportunities, but it is not that limitlessly large. At some point, the desire for more contacts from the surrounding area arises, and that's where dating apps like Tinder come in.

All superficial, right?

For some people, dating apps may seem very superficial.

But the truth is: dating apps like Tinder are "just" tools that allow us to make new contacts. Who you meet and what dates you go on really depends on how you use Tinder.

So, what does that mean?

It's simple: your profile will attract certain people, others will simply dislike it. With the right knowledge about the significance of your profile, you will learn over time to how to attract more people and thus also discreetly turning away others.

How does it all work?

We'll explain that to you in the section below named: Pro tips for men and women.

What do the members on Tinder look for?

One-night stands, casual flirting, or the love for life - some dating apps cater exclusively to people who have specific intentions. But Tinder caters to all of these categories.

What does that in fact mean for you?

Basically, Tinder is designed for people who are looking for a flirt and/or a date in an uncomplicated and casual way.


If you look at the profiles on Tinder, you quickly realize that you can find anything there. Some are looking for the love of their life, others for a companion in their free time, and yet others are looking for a fling.

That's one of the reasons why Tinder is the best way to enter the dating world.

Tinder in New Zealand

Dating apps vary in popularity across different countries.

Is Tinder in New Zealand paying off?

The answer is a clear: Yes!

Because roughly 50,000 people download the Tinder app every month. Of course, these are not all first-time users, but anyone who uses the app should find enough members in the immediate vicinity. If you don't think so, you can test it without any problems.

Because Tinder is also flawless in its free version.

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Inside Tinder: How the popular dating app works

If you want to succeed on Tinder, you should get familiar with Tinder and understand how this online dating platform works.

Tinder for newbies: The swipe system

Registering on Tinder is pretty simple. Sign up, upload pictures, wait briefly for approval, and then you're off to go!

Is it possible to write a profile text?

Yes! However, it is not the main focus on Tinder. We'll explain later why you should definitely use it anyway.

Caution: Swipe!

If you’re using Tinder via the app - which most people do - you'll see the first member right after you sign up. But beware: From now on, you should be careful with your finger gestures.

Tinder's simple swipe features:

  • Take a closer look: Briefly tap the bottom third of the picture and you can scroll down the member's profile. This is necessary if the person has written a longer profile text or you would like to view more profile pictures.
  • Dislike: Place and hold your finger in the top 2/3 of the image and then swipe left: Now you dislike that profile. The profile card will disappear immediately and you will see the next user.
  • Like: On the other hand, if you put your finger in the top 2/3 of the image and swipe to the right, you have given the person a "like". Don't be surprised! The profile will disappear, but the like is still there, don't worry.
  • If you have liked a person, Tinder will soon show your profile to that person so they can make the choice as well.
  • Once both users have liked each other, a "match" is created.
  • If a match was made, the Tinder app informs both users simultaneously.


The swipe gesture with your finger is called a "swipe", which is why Tinder refers to the "swipe system".

Giving a like and immediately texting? - Not on Tinder.

On Tinder, you can't text another user until you've made the "match" described above. Soon there will be an exception to the rule, but it will require the Platinum subscription. More on this topic later.

The unwritten rule on Tinder:

There’s an unwritten rule for many people on Tinder: The last person to like is the one who texts first.

So, what do you have to do?

If you like a user and then receive a message that a match has been made, you should actually text first. Why? - Because the other person liked you first.

Of course, not everyone follows the rule. However, you show good manners when you doing this.

The locator: Tinder's strength also gives rise to criticism

Anyone who uses Tinder has to live with the fact that Tinder requires the location function to be activated on smartphones. If you refuse this, the app closes again.

The benefit is:

With each profile you will find a distance indication and therefore always know how far away it would be, if you agreed to a date.

In addition, filter functions can also be activated. It is possible to specify the radius in which you want to search for potential matches.

What is the catch?

Members report that even though they search within a radius of 30 km, they are also shown members who are located further away.

What is the reason for that?

We suspect the following:

  • Tinder suggests members who have already liked you. Probably even if these members are outside your search radius.
  • The kilometer indication changes if a member uses the app while away from home. (g. during business trips or on vacation)
  • Travelers can change their location in order to search for matches within their location. The person in question is therefore not "yet" in your vicinity, but Tinder already knows that they will be shortly.

The premium features on Tinder

Time or money? - that's the question here.

Dating apps cost money to run, and that's why they're rarely free to use. Tinder, however, also allows free use, and it's not as bad as you might think.

Tinder in its free version

If you use Tinder for free:

  • You have to put up with ads
  • You can't take back accidentally given likes or dislikes
  • The number of likes you can give each day is limited
  • You can't see who has liked you
  • You are unable to give superlikes
  • If you have a match, you are able to chat to that person

Paid Tinder options look like these:

Tinder Plus

  • You never have to endure ads
  • You have unlimited likes
  • ou can undo an accidental swipe (like or dislike)
  • You can give 5 superlikes daily
  • You can boost your profile for free (1x per month)
  • You can use the passport feature

Tinder Gold

Same benefits as the Tinder Plus subscription, with the addition of:

  • You can see who has liked you
  • You will receive top picks daily

Tinder Platinum

(Currently still in testing and only available in some countries).

  • All the benefits of the Tinder Gold subscription, plus additional:
  • If you give another user a superlike, you allowed to attach a message even if there hasn't been a match yet

A brand new feature on Tinder

Shared hobbies connect and let's face it, when we see that another user likes the same hobbies as we do, it usually increases our interest within that person.

Tinder has responded to this, which is why it has recently become possible to indicate hobbies and interests as well. The search algorithm compares the information and suggests users with the same interests.

Who should be able to benefit from the Gold subscription

If you don't have much time, but you don't have to save money, we recommend the Gold subscription in combination with a strong profile. (How to create an appealing profile will be explained).

Why the Gold Subscription?

Only with the gold subscription you can see who has liked you and you don't have to worry about the first contact. Just wait until an interesting person has liked you, like back and you can start the first contact via chat. It's hard to find a more time-saving way to date.

Tinder vs. Bumble: Which app is your quickest way to love?

Bumble is often compared with Tinder and many NZ users wonder which app is actually the best?

A short introduction to the Tinder rival Bumble:

Whitney Wolfe (founder of Bumble) was part of Tinder's founding, but left the team to create Bumble. But which platform is now more suitable?

Both online dating platforms have apps and both use the swipe system. However, if you look at the downloads, Tinder is clearly ahead. While Tinder has more than 50,000 downloads per month, Bumble has about 20,000. Nevertheless, Bumble is now also targeting other markets.

Bumble - ladies need to be proactive

On Tinder, everyone can text each other once a match has been made. On Bumble, things are a little different.

In general, females are very selective on dating apps and are rarely the first to text. Bumble wanted to counter this behavior and therefore introduced new rules.

What are they?

When women receive a like on Bumble, they have 24 hours to contact the man. Those who pay for additional functions can extend the period by 24 hours, but after that the like disappears.

Does this form of "education" work?- You should try it yourself.

The costs of Bumble are lower than those of Tinder, although the overall costs are somewhat unclear.

Bumbles plan - more than just dating

The app no longer advertises itself as just a dating app, but also wants to allow its members to find new friends and even new employees.

Critics say that dating photos are not exactly suitable for applying for jobs, but who knows, maybe Bumble will soon build in options to upload business photos as well.

And what about Tinder?

Of course, you are not forced to look for flirts or dating partners on Tinder. You can always find profiles in which members explicitly state that they are only looking for a sports or hobby partner. But the majority - let's be clear about this - are looking for dates, fun in bed, or true love.

Sharing photos and filters

In terms of filter function, Bumble is clearly ahead. Tinder only allows you to filter by age and distance. With Bumble, you can also determine body size, for example. And what about swapping photos?

On Tinder, no photos can be exchanged in the chat; Bumble is more generous here, too, and allows pictures to be exchanged. The recently introduced option of video calling has been available on Bumble for quite some time.

Tinder, on the other hand, has only recently caught up. Who knows, maybe picture sharing will be possible soon as well.

Sharing photos via chat - what's the point?

If a rejected person takes revenge with slander or writes bad Google reviews, this can quickly become unpleasant for people in management positions or self-employed individuals. Therefore, not everyone can afford to upload clearly recognizable photos of their face.

How do such singles overcome this problem?

They upload photos in which they can only be seen from the side or from behind. Only when a match is found and the chat is encouraging to them, would they be willing to reveal more about themselves. If dating apps prohibit this possibility, some dates do not even take place. This is because the blind date is a big barrier.

The prices on Tinder and Bumble

The pricing policy on Tinder is very well structured. Basic, Plus, Gold and Platinum, those are the four pricing models.

And what about Bumble?

Bumble can also be used free of charge. However, the various premium features are only available via coins, which have to be purchased on the platform. Bumble does not communicate clearly which features cost how many coins. Of course, the prices can change at any time. How do you deal with that?

If you need up-to-date information, it's best to download the app for free and then look at the prices in the app itself. Since Bumble's membership numbers are significantly lower than Tinder's, Bumble will probably remain cheaper for quite a while.

The bottom line:

Those who live in urban areas will be much better off with Tinder because of the lower number of members. On the other hand, if you live in a city and don't want to focus exclusively on dating, you might be interested in Bumble.

Our hint:

Simply use both platforms. As both platforms are also good to use in the free version, there is nothing against testing them. You will quickly find out which one you like more.

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Inside Tinder - How you will succeed on Tinder properly

We claim: The test results are incorrect

Average men hardly have any success on Tinder - you read this sentence again and again in the press. Women would be very demanding and would only date the really good-looking men.

We have a different opinion. How come?

We'll explain it to you right now. But there's more to come. We'll give you step-by-step instructions on how to make your profile original and appealing.

You don't believe us? - Well, then buckle up. We're sure to convince you. 😊

For men and women: The most important facts about online dating

Who enters the world of online dating, should inform themselves up front. It is important to know what so many people are actually looking for online. And why they look for it as well as with which requirements man and woman are confronted.

Do not be surprised …

If we now get into the topic of relationships and co., you will quickly notice that the info builds on each other. All right then, here we go.

Reforming relationships - knowledge is power

Our social life has changed rapidly in the last 100 years! In the past, professions and relationships served to secure life, because it was impossible for a single person to manage a house and farm on their own.

Social constraints and obligations demand marriage and usually children. Men without a "decent" job were about as valuable in this system as women who could not have children.

Conclusion: Relationships were the basis for a secure life back then. At best, they also guaranteed good care in old age.

How are things today?

Expectations of partners in today's world

At least in the Western world, it is true that both women and men have the same life expectancy as couples when they are single. In Sweden, single households already outweigh couples, and the trend is rising. What impact does this have on the search for a partner?

Most of us have become much more ambitious when it comes to choosing a partner. We no longer look for contacts because we have to, but because we want to. This fact, however, changes the rules of the game massively. The entire setting has become much more relaxed and easy-going. But there are also some downsides.

The throw-away attitude turns us all into losers

In other words, we no longer need relationships today, but many of us still want one. Online dating platforms like Tinder and others offer us many opportunities. After all, apart from the fake profiles that pop up from time to time, we can often find plenty of people there who, just like ourselves, who are looking for a connection.

Unfortunately, and this should not be ignored, dating apps also lead to a merciless throw-away mentality.

One of them looks cool, so you click on the like icon and wait for an exciting message from a match. If a message doesn't come right away or doesn't meet our expectations 100%, you will be able to end the contact and keep an eye out for the next delicious person.

And at the end of the day, we wonder why this nasty feeling of loneliness won't go away and flirting becomes more boring every time. How do you avoid this and obtain real benefits from online dating platforms like Tinder?

Before you start dating, figure out what you want!

Before you create your profile on Tinder, clarify what your dream goal would be right now.

Grab a pen and paper and answer the following four questions for yourself:

What are you looking for?

A partner for a long relationship? Friends with benefits? One-night stand? Just distraction and a nice chat? New friends? When asking these questions, be as honest as you can with yourself.

What qualities don't you like? What turns you off?

Would you want to meet someone who is looking for a fling? Do you mind smoking? Is drinking a lot or a little alcohol more likely to bother you? Do you mind being unsporty?

What is not your thing?

Do you like to talk about politics? What about esotericism and spirituality? Do you like to cook on a regular basis?

What do you find really attractive and sexy?

Is it important to you that your contact knows how to dress well? What movies do you like? What is your sense of humor? Are you more the romantic type or do you like action?

Most do not succeed in online dating because they already have very specific wishes, but keep their search behavior far too common.

According to the motto …

It is better to reveal little about yourself and not get rejected than to be specific and get fewer matches.

Never try to be everybody's darling!

In fact, trying to be "everybody's darling" on Tinder will bring you nothing but frustration because you'll be chatting with people who have different goals than you do.

Take note:

If you get 15 matches with a meaningless profile and a date comes out of it, you would have had much more stress than if you ...

  • Only got 3 matches with a clear profile and also got a date.
  • Especially on Tinder, where members are looking for contacts for very different reasons, it is important to name your own wishes. With a platform like eHarmony or EliteSingles, the situation is completely different. It's self-explanatory that people are looking for permanent relationships there.
  • Of course, all the previous advice is only valid if you are interested in actual dates.

What you should look out for in other profiles

Avoid profiles without characters! Those who don't put together any profile text and instead only upload three photos of themselves: one while driving, one from behind while hiking and one with some friends.

Do you really think this uncreative and superficial person will inspire you on a date? Or even in bed? Probably not.

And that's why:

  • Make your profile meaningful and specify what you are looking for.
  • Ignore profiles that are superficial and have no meaning whatsoever. Frustration is almost always prevalent.

How to make your profile a real eye-catcher - profile tips for men and women

Sayings which inspire…

Tinder doesn't leave much space for the profile text, but profile pictures can be uploaded. So what could be more logical than describing yourself with sayings or little cartoons? If you search for sayings on Google, you will be rewarded with plenty of results. Otherwise, Pinterest is a good reference.

Want a few examples? - You're welcome.

  • I don't read instructions, I just push buttons until I get it right! :)
  • The last thought before I make a decision: Oh, screw it!
  • Behavior when it snows: 2% build a snowman, 3% have a snowball fight, 5% go skiing, and 90% warn their friends via WhatsApp that it's cold as shit outside while they're cozy on the couch. Crap, I'm one of the 90%.
  • I'm happy to meet you halfway, but I'm certainly not running after you
  • I’m not saying your Perfume is too strong. I’m just saying the canary was alive before you got here.
  • My friend sent me a 7-minute voice message explaining that she doubts I love her because I don't use emojis. I think I'm becoming queer.
  • Dear men, forget about tits. Take the ones with punch lines!
  • If you undress her and notice that her bra matches her panties...then it wasn't you who decided that you were going to have sex.

The most important rules for such phrases

Of course, the same applies to sayings: Do not overdo it, otherwise it will quickly seem silly. Don't use more than three sayings.

Also a great idea:

Choose sayings that fit your character and be honest about them.

Saying no. 3 makes it clear that snow and outdoor sports are not your thing. Anyone who is similar to you in this respect will find your profile much more likeable.

Another hint:

Use sayings that match your personal search motif on Tinder. If you're looking for a committed relationship, choose sayings that make clear what's important to you. If you're looking for fun in bed, use humorous and erotic phrases.

No-go's among sayings

You should never choose sayings that seem lecturing. Remember: We all use Tinder because we want to have fun and are interested in new contacts. There is no place for lectures within this context.

Also, stay away from sayings that make fun of others. Insulting others does not make you look better. More likely the opposite is the case.

For men: Inspire with your own profile – it’s the packaging that makes it!

Men like to complain on dating apps and especially on Tinder that women are only interested in the really good-looking men. Women respond annoyed that many men make no effort at all with their profiles. - Those who think these worlds are incompatible are wrong. The only thing missing is an understanding of the other gender's way of thinking.

So what do we mean by that?

Quite simply: men and women often want the same thing, but their approach is completely different and they don't share the same strengths and weaknesses.

Is this statement too vague for you?

All right, let's get more specific then.

Understand women's desires and get likes

Women (not all, but many) have a good sense of aesthetics and love "packaging". They like to make themselves beautiful, not only because compliments from others are something nice, but also because they like to look in the mirror and feel good.

They also like to wrap gifts because they look nice and it's fun to unwrap them.

On average, women also invest more money in clothes and more time in good profile pictures. They are more critical in their choice, because they want to please not only themselves, but also you.

What does that mean for you?

If you don't make an effort with your profile pictures, women often read the following message from them: "I don't care about you at all. I have neither style nor manners."

Do you need to totally change for your profile picture or become a supermodel? - No, don't worry …

The majority of women know how to distinguish between the packaging and the content. Just because they expect to see an attractive profile photo of you in a suit or with muscles, doesn't mean that you always have to be dressed up and never gain another gram of weight. But they want to see that you are making an effort, because after all, they are doing the same.

Overall conclusion:

Your profile photo should prove that you have style and are capable of making more of yourself when needed. The ladies want photos that they can drool over. So show them your best side!

Make the ladies drool with your profile picture

Honestly? - Hardly anyone has good profile photos of themselves when they start online dating. But the hard truth is: If you want to be successful, you gotta get in front of the camera. All the complaining doesn't help, so suck it up.

But how do you define "good" photos? What makes you look really sexy?

Of course, the question can't be answered equally for everyone, because both men and women can look attractive in different ways.

Classic styles would include:

  • he modern business style
  • The rocky motorcycle style
  • The cool rapper style
  • The sporty and/or muscular style

Some advice for you:

Google your favorite style type and click on image search. You will see a lot of photos showing men in different poses.

Then choose five that you like. Yes, we know, the men on the photos are mostly models and you are probably not one.

But believe us when we tell you: dope Tinder photos also work without a model figure. Often it's more the facial expressions or the posing that makes a person look attractive.

Apart from that, winter jackets and/or business fashion are perfect for hiding a few extra kilos or giving very thin bodies more volume.

A good idea is to ask a friend, sister or cousin to help you with the photos. Then you'll also get the right advice from a female perspective.

Another tip:

Learn from the pros. Benedict Cumberbatch, for example, is absolutely not massive. He is tall and rather lanky. Nevertheless, he has found his style, which makes him look very good.

Quite different …

Kevin Smith. He is more the cuddly type with a few extra kilos. Does that harm his appearance? - Not at all. He also knows how to dress in front of the camera and has many female fans.

Third example: Tom Holland. A small, also rather lanky man, whose strength lies in his friendly and often somewhat cheeky smile.

Which actor has a similar physique as you and how does he dress?

In conclusion: When it comes to your profile photos, always be aware: You are perfectly fine the way you are. It is our charisma that makes us attractive in pictures. Charisma and aura, however, are created primarily through joy of life, supported by an healthy self-esteem. Your figure, believe it or not, comes second.

Profile texts for men

You have already read it above: Women value good profiles. They see boring profile texts as rude and disrespectful.

Also, don't forget: If three women like your profile because they could tell who you are and what you're looking for, the chances of a successful follow-up are much higher than if 20 women like you, and none of them know what you want.

Specify in your profile text:

What you dislike and are not looking for (especially important on Tinder).

What you're looking for (fun or long-term?)

What type of woman attracts you

Maybe you are just looking for casual sex and you are not sure if you can openly state this fact? The clear answer is: You can and should name it. Most women actually like the idea of it. The important thing is: Phrase it in a friendly and respectful way.

Like this:

"Hey ladies, I don't know what the future holds, but right now I'm more in the mood for some uncomplicated fun. If you are looking for something similar, like me. I would be happy to get to know you better over a coffee or cocktail.“

Also important: Surveys reveal that bad spelling in profile texts is a big turn-off. This also gives a disrespectful and uneducated impression.

Tips for women on Tinder

If you're a woman creating a profile on Tinder, here are some details you should pay attention to.

Make sure you have the right focus

Be careful with your profile pictures and think carefully about what your pictures are communicating. If you take a picture of yourself from an angle and put your cleavage in the center of the picture, there is a high chance that men will perceive you as "cheap" and „easy to get".

Never "sell" yourself in such a way. What can you do if you want to upload some erotic pictures?

A bare shoulder combined with a loose shirt can look very tempting. Likewise high boots or playfully styled hair. If you really want to show off your cleavage, wear a very(!) classy dress with it.

Never use Photoshop

It may be tempting to use Photoshop to hide wrinkles or maybe a curve or two. But there's a big catch.

As soon as someone has liked you and the first date is coming up, you will feel extremely uncomfortable. Because all cheating will come out on the first date latest.

Apart from that ...

More and more men are emphasizing that they are not looking for supermodels. Most of them want real women who have enough confidence to do without Photoshop.

Embrace your type

Just like for men, it is also advisable for women to stay true when it comes to style.

  • sassy and self-confident like P!nk
  • romantically warm-hearted like Juliette Binoche
  • or cool and professional like Charlize Theron

Each type has its own unique charm. Enjoy the process of finding your own style, even though it's "just" about profile pictures. However, it's more important that you feel comfortable in your profile pictures and don't feel like you're making false promises.

Do not be ashamed if you are looking for some fun

In the minds of many women, there is often still the misconception that if they want to have fun with men, they will become - sorry, for the straight words - cheap sluts. Don't ever let anyone tell you that.

Whether it's non-committal sex or a new relationship, you're allowed to desire and seek anything. If you are worried that the desire for "friends with benefits" will be misunderstood, then name it in your profile.

Like this:

"I don't want a committed relationship right now, but I also don't like men who only think about 'the one thing' on the first date. Style, respect and eye-to-eye conversations are important to me and I find them sexy."

For women and men: Chatting for the first time

Like everywhere else in life, Tinder has a clear rule: what you don't want done to you ... (The proverb should be familiar to everyone).

What do we mean by that?

If you give a Like on Tinder, you should also be willing to chat with that person.

Absolute no-go's when chatting

"Hey", "How are you?", "You' re pretty." Such banal questions or monosyllabic comments are ranked at an absolute kindergarten level. Never treat others this way and never let yourself be treated like that. Anyone who first matches and then doesn't text back, does not belong on Tinder.

"What are you looking for here?" This question is also usually inappropriate on dating apps. On Tinder, however, it can sometimes be useful if the other person's profile doesn't clearly indicate what kind of contact He or She is looking for.

Never overwhelm the other person with compliments: "You look great. I've been staring at your photo the whole time." Such sentences - even if they are true - do not contain any question and seem immature. Much better: "I like your second profile photo a lot, where did you go?"

Being authentic still looks the most appealing

It is often advised to be original and creative during the first chat. If you can think of something original and funny, you can of course go ahead. Honest words often serve their purpose just as well.

However, only if you are not dealing with an egomaniac who will only respond if the entertainment is 100% to his/her liking.

Want an example of a natural opener?

"Hey, thanks for your like, totally glad it worked out. I'm on my way to the grocery store for some yummy food. How's your evening schedule looking like?“

With this opener you prove several things at once:

One is capable of complete sentences.

It comes across as friendly and informal, and a question that makes it easier to answer is also included.

It makes you curious, what is about to be cooked and thus offers the opportunity for a counter-question.

If suitable, you can of course also refer to the profile text of the flirting partner, but you should only do this if the message is really important to you.

The most important rule when chatting is:

Always end the chat with a counter question, otherwise the conversations will end quickly or you give the impression of having lost interest in the other person.

If someone tries to reach out, but you don't have the chance to reply anytime soon, tell them. "Hey, I'm a little stressed right now. But thanks for your message, I'll get back to you tonight, looking forward to it ..."

Great tips for women and men: Getting ready for the first Tinder date


Your clothes: Choose clothes that you feel comfortable in and still look good. 😊 Don't wear anything that doesn't usually suit your habits.

If you don't like high heels as a woman, you don't have to wear them on a date. If you don't like suits as a man, you can of course wear jeans and a t-shirt.

Important is:

Your outfit should not differ too much from the style used in your profile photos.

Location and time

A classic is to meet in the evening in a café or at a bar. However, if fun in bed is an option it can be quite advisable to meet at 3 pm. You are less tired, you can fight the small appetite with a delicious piece of cake and you still have enough time to chat before, you move on to the first kiss.

We wish you lots of fun and pleasure when flirting and dating on Tinder!

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FAQ - Tinder

User ratings and user feedback

Average User Rating
Average: 2.6 (12 votes)


12/17/2020 - 04:02

It's just about having the best photo. If you have it you get dates. If not not.

User rating
Average: 2 (1 vote)
12/18/2020 - 03:24

I've had the same stupid experiences on Tinder. I get a bunch of messages from men who don't interest me, because of the distance, weird profile photos (some are really bad and are more of a brand of being 'strange'), or because I just don't outwardly like them. The men whom I have written to or who have a 'match' with me write back or first in the rarest of cases. Once I got an answer saying that one was not interested. The others resist it completely.

User rating
Average: 1 (1 vote)
12/19/2020 - 01:49

Tinder is a waste of time. The brand name fits quite well, but in the negtive sense.

User rating
Average: 1 (1 vote)
02/24/2021 - 03:45

Tinder is what it is. A fast and convenient way to quickly scan potential partners. BUT... to really find a hookup, it takes a lot of effort to find out, whether the other one is relly interested in a casual date. My advice: Take an app, that specializes for casual dating!!!

User rating
Average: 4 (1 vote)
02/26/2021 - 01:31

Tinder is just an app for entertainment. If you're looking for a real partner you should checkout other online dating apps, that's for sure.

User rating
Average: 2 (1 vote)
03/05/2021 - 05:47

I'm annoyed by the guys and the cheap pick-up lines here. Aren't there any apps out there with a bit more class? Anyway, on Tinder I've only met weirdos. I have unsubscribed again.

User rating
Average: 3 (1 vote)
03/05/2021 - 05:53

C-date is a good app. Unfortunately, there are not many options to customise your own profile. Everything is pretty standardised. That's a shame. But the main thing is that it works and you can arrange casual dates. It has worked for me once so far and I have been on c-date for 2 months.

User rating
Average: 8 (1 vote)
03/10/2021 - 03:39

Tinder is always presented as so decent in advertising. But as soon as you look around the application, you quickly realize that it is one thing. Which is fine if all users know. What I assume as of Tinder. No one registers here to find the love of their lives. I hope at least for him. In fact, users maintain a very appropriate tone among themselves. For an occasional dating portal, Tinder is really stylish if you want to ... At least it also fits very well. Sure, you have to drive a few miles at any moment to have a date. That's just the way it is. Not everyone can live in the immediate vicinity. Although it is advertised in many applications and portals. Noooo, how is it supposed to work? !!

User rating
Average: 3 (1 vote)
03/11/2021 - 04:34

Ever tried to find a friend through Tinder? So a real friend, a partner? Doesn't have to be great love right away ... But have you ever been lucky and had more than just a flirt or a number in the box? Then congratulations !!! With me it was never enough for more than a couple of weeks of flirting. Does the guy really suit you? You only find out gradually. It couldn't be more superficial. If you find someone visually interesting, you meet them. But you don't even know yet whether his ideas about life will match yours. Most likely, it doesn't fit. At least if you're looking for a partner, because he's probably just looking for someone to lay down again.

User rating
Average: 2 (1 vote)
03/20/2021 - 05:21

Terrible app. Tinder blocked me even though I have a premium membership. WTF. No reason why. They never explained why they blocked me. I never got my money back either.

User rating
Average: 1 (1 vote)
03/26/2021 - 01:07

On Tinder there are only people who are either taken or married or dudes who are players. The men tell the women exactly what they want to hear in order to get laid. Then they go to the next one and tell her exactly what she wants to hear. I hardly know anyone who has found a serious relationship on Tinder. But if you want to get laid, you can get lucky on Tinder. But nothing serious.

User rating
Average: 3 (1 vote)
04/01/2021 - 03:29

I don't know what the women who use tinder want? I don't have that many matches because I probably look rather below average. And when I do have a match, the women don't reply. I've written to 20 women and haven't had a reply. But it took several weeks until I reached these 20 matches. Tinder is just frustrating. I don't want to use the app any more and will look around in the real world again.

User rating
Average: 1 (1 vote)