She has an OnlyFans account: Should I date her or stay away from her?

Key takeaways:

OnlyFans is a platform that was originally designed for artists to offer exclusive content to their fans, but has recently established itself as a platform for erotic content as well.

There is no clear answer as to whether or not you should date someone with an OnlyFans account, as this depends on your personal values and attitudes towards libertarianism.

It is important to be aware of the type of content your crush posts on OnlyFans and make sure it is in line with your own values.

If you're comfortable with it, there's no reason why you shouldn't date someone with an OnlyFans account. However, it is important to have open and honest communication and make sure you are both on the same page.

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You've met a beautiful woman and you're hooked?

You share the same interests, have the same sense of humor, and are completely on the same wavelength. But during the getting-to-know-you phase, the bomb drops and you learn a special detail that could change everything. Not only does your crush like to show off on Instagram, but he or she likes to be a little more revealing and even makes a little money doing it. In short, your crush has an account on OnlyFans!

Should you still go out with her or avoid her?

This question aroused a lot of interest in our editorial team and divided opinions. While some didn't mind the fact, others could never imagine dating someone with an OF account. But what's so bad about it and why could an OnlyFans profile slow down meeting someone? To approach the matter subjectively, we considered several points in this regard.  

1. What is OnlyFans?
2. How do you feel about libertarianism?
3. What content does your crush publish on OF?

If you don't know which platform we're talking about, let's clarify the following questions first:

1. What is OnlyFans?

First things first: the platform was originally intended for something different than what it is known for today! When OnlyFans launched in 2016, it was meant to be a portal for artists to present exclusive content to their fans. Musicians who, for a monthly fee, provide access to otherwise unreleased songs, and other artists who are promoted in this way on a monthly basis through their community's subscriptions.

And then came the pandemic....

As social interaction around the world ground to a halt, many sites experienced tremendous growth. One of them was OnlyFans, as many women suddenly realized the potential of the exclusive content site.

Not only did many of the adult industry's starlets join the site to provide their loyal fans with exclusive content for a monthly fee. Cameras were also being unpacked in private bedrooms, photos were being taken and videos were being shot and uploaded to OnlyFans.

Sex sells...

So, if you have no problem presenting yourself in a sexy way or filming sex in the bedroom, you can earn a nice income with the platform.

But what if you find out that your crush has an account with the number one for exclusive content? This is an important question to ask yourself:

2. How do you feel about libertarianism?

As soon as you find out that your crush has an OnlyFans account, you should think about yourself. How do you feel about sexual freedom could you get comfortable with other men looking at pictures of your girlfriend for money.? Would you be okay with her showing off her body in erotic lingerie with her face covered? Or are you disgusted by the thought of other men seeing what should be for your eyes only?

This is a question that only you can answer, and you have to ask yourself openly and honestly. After all, you may not be the first to see her new underwear. Maybe you could consider taking pictures with her, or even go a step further? 

And anyway?

3. What kind of content does your crush post on OnlyFans?

Having an account on OnlyFans does not mean that you have to present yourself in pornographic pictures. OF also serves many fetishes with its content, such as the foot fetish. So before you jump to conclusions, you should talk to her.

Why did she create the account and what content does she upload? Are they really "just" pictures of her bare feet or are they actually shots taken directly from the bedroom? Are you comfortable with her uploading intimate videos but not being identifiable?

"What will my friends and family think?"

Probably one of the first questions that will pop into your head when you reveal this is the opinion of those around you. What will your friends or family say if your girlfriend has an account on OnlyFans?

In our opinion, this should not be the deciding factor in your decision. Besides, this is not necessarily the first information you have to reveal about your crush.

And what if you just go along with it?

Sorry, we live in the 21st century and eroticism is quite acceptable here. Even on other platforms men, women and couples show themselves in certain poses. On OnlyFans you can take off the last layers of your clothes and earn money at the same time.

Thanks to masks and other tools, you can avoid being recognized and live a normal life outside the bedroom. However, if you are someone for whom eroticism is clearly meant to be private, you will not be happy in such a relationship.

In summary

Your crush is probably not using OnlyFans to release exclusive music for loyal fans. So how do you deal with the fact that this person wants to show her erotic side online and wants paid subscriptions for it? Does your moral compass immediately kick in, or can you tolerate it as long as she's not clearly identifiable?

Well, before you condemn her, a clarifying conversation seems like the right thing to do. Obviously, finding out that your crush is presenting herself on OnlyFans isn't something you're going to digest lightly. Take your time, talk about it and find out more about her intentions and what she posts. If it's just footage, it shouldn't be a problem for you. If it's something else, it's up to you to decide if you can get along with it or even become a part of it.

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